Is Your Partner Cheating?

Why won’t your guy commit? Well, if he’s anything like the following traits, don’t hold your breath.

Damaged – He’s been hurt before. Blah blah blah. He’s “swearing off relationships”. Why aren’t you running yet?

Chronic worker – Unless you work with him (which would be so inappropriate), there is a huge chance that he doesn’t have much time for you. He cannot commit to you if he has already committed to his job. Think about it.

Poor – He isn’t financially stable, so you can put your hopes for a stable relationship right back on the shelf. The two of you just might be in two different places right now.

Immature – We all know someone like this. He’s mature as far as his age goes, but at heart he’s still in 7^th grade. He’s not emotionally ready to handle anything serious and mature.

Mr. Perfect – Does he talk about himself too much? Is he super superficial? He’s already committed to himself. Run.

These are the obvious examples. If you’re still wondering why your guy won’t commit, it could just be that he’s just not that into you.

Brunch is already a cheap date, because it’s at your house! It shouldn’t cost you anything if you already have the things you need in your refrigerator!

Have a BBQ! This is a great way to meet your partner’s friends. Create a potluck theme so that you have something to talk to each person about. This is a great way to make new friends while showing him that you’re totally cool to hang out with him and his friends. He will certainly appreciate it!

Carnivals are great! They make for awesome conversation and are a great excuse to tap into your inner childhood! Your date can play to win that huge, stuffed giraffe. Munch on some amazing cotton candy, and take a ride on the Ferris wheel!

Stargazing at the local observatory or even a nearby open field is a great way to bond. It costs absolutely nothing, and I bet you could come up with some fun, bonding games!

Mini golfing is one of the most popular “cheap date” ideas. It’s pretty fun, super safe, and loads of fun. Any of these ideas plus several more “cheap date” ideas are perfect if you pair it with an open mind and laughter!

Don’t criticize. This is number one, because it is crucial to support your partner in whatever they do. Criticism will lead to a defensive partner, which will then lead to a fight. If you’re always criticizing, you’re always with a defensive partner, and we hope you can take it from there. Find a better way to voice your opinion in a non-combative and belittling way. Trust us. It goes a long way.

Be realistic. Don’t go into your relationship with fairytale expectations. If you’re always demanding unrealistic expectations of your partner it will just hinder them from being truly authentic around you. They will also begin to resent you for it.

Listen. Be sure to listen to what your partner has to say. Even though it seems trivial to you to sit and listen to the recap of their day, or maybe a problem that isn’t really a problem, listening will strengthen your relationship more than you think.

Above all else, you should never avoid intimacy. Physical and emotional intimacy is the most important part of maintaining your relationship. You want to make sure that you partner feels loved and appreciated.

The beginning of a relationship is the most important time. There are a few things that should be taking place at this time. If you aren’t doing the majority of these things you may want to pay attention.

Putting yourself first is a great way to have a happier relationship. Studies show that when you spend more time on yourself you have time to learn more things that you may be interested in. You can later teach your partner these things.

Respecting the privacy of your relationship is a great way to stay in it. Posting things about your relationship online not only make others uncomfortable, but it shows others every detail about your budding or failing bond. If you’re venting online it just might make things worse.

Avoid the toxic relationships that your friends lead. Don’t seek advice from a friend who is splitting up with their partner as well. Studies show that if you spend a lot of time with your friend, family member, or coworker who is in a toxic relationship, there is a 33% chance that your relationship will end right alongside theirs.

Unwind together. When you’re done working you should take some time to spend time with your spouse. No work talk!

It’s all about the little things! Try these tips and start strengthening your relationship!